Bridget is a girl in the game canon, the artists depiction on Twitter where this was originally uploaded, and the Artist's Commentary here "ASORFNAWDFOIAFDVBIWEFUHWD SHE IS SO CUTE AAAAAAA"
Bridget is a girl in the game canon, the artists depiction on Twitter where this was originally uploaded, and the Artist's Commentary here "ASORFNAWDFOIAFDVBIWEFUHWD SHE IS SO CUTE AAAAAAA"
Nothing got the point of randomly generated letters to show excitement
Given that forum #222668 mentions trans colours as a qualifier I'll go ahead and swap out 1boy for 1girl, seeing as the background uses what looks like the typical transgender colours.
Bridget is a girl in the game canon, the artists depiction on Twitter where this was originally uploaded, and the Artist's Commentary here "ASORFNAWDFOIAFDVBIWEFUHWD SHE IS SO CUTE AAAAAAA"
Bridget identifies as a girl in canon, that's not the same thing as being a girl, unless she somehow had Gender Affirmation/Reassignment Surgery inbetween her matches.
Tagging doesn't care what people identify as. If you disagree with that, instead of spamming the comments, bring it up in the forums where someone might actually listen to what you have to say. Maybe those trans tags I proposed a while back will actually get made this time. Don't hold your breath, though.
Given that forum #222668 mentions trans colours as a qualifier I'll go ahead and swap out 1boy for 1girl, seeing as the background uses what looks like the typical transgender colours.
It's not really a question of whether it is a MtF or FtM situation. The aforementioned forum post specifies that Strive Bridget posts that fall under rating:G while referencing transsexuality should have the gender tags for Bridget set to the female variants.
But if you want to look at it like this implies a gender transition from one to the other, then I would point to the fact that the latest (as far as I know) Bridget canon is that she is physically male and as such an implied gender transition would be from male to female.
Not sure how someone who was born as a male is going to transition from female to male.
Funny you ask that, a friend's uncle had gender reassignment surgery, regretted it almost immediately and had it done a second time, so he's mtftm. Though for context he never did HRT or spoke to a therapist or anything, he just went straight to a clinic and had them do the surgery, then was disappointed about how the result didn't align with his expectations, leading back to never talking with a professional about what the surgery would even achieve. Also that was like 20 years ago, results may be better nowadays.
What, did you seriously think that they held onto his ding-dong for however long it took him to change his mind and then just reattached it?
Not really. But I had the hope that the whole process could be reversed if the person realizes it's not what would make them happy. I got a friend who confessed to me that he began his operations to change his sex, and I really hope he knows what he's doing, because it cannot be undone once done, and I'm scared he comes to me one day and goes "that was a bad idea, why didn't you stop me?".
Not really. But I had the hope that the whole process could be reversed if the person realizes it's not what would make them happy. I got a friend who confessed to me that he began his operations to change his sex, and I really hope he knows what he's doing, because it cannot be undone once done, and I'm scared he comes to me one day and goes "that was a bad idea, why didn't you stop me?".
Statistically, trans people are overwhelmingly known to report long-term satisfaction with gender affirming surgery. Like, 99.7% report little to no regret.
More people regret knee replacement, pretty much every kind of plastic surgery, and wisdom tooth extraction. Your friend is overwhelmingly likely to be happy with the results here, just by dint of statistical aggregates.
Statistically, trans people are overwhelmingly known to report long-term satisfaction with gender affirming surgery. Like, 99.7% report little to no regret.
More people regret knee replacement, pretty much every kind of plastic surgery, and wisdom tooth extraction. Your friend is overwhelmingly likely to be happy with the results here, just by dint of statistical aggregates.
I hate to be that guy, but what's the source of those statistics? Saying things like high trans people satisfaction, knee replacement regret, etc. without a proof to back them up would make people skeptical.
I hate to be that guy, but what's the source of those statistics? Saying things like high trans people satisfaction, knee replacement regret, etc. without a proof to back them up would make people skeptical.
Statistically, trans people are overwhelmingly known to report long-term satisfaction with gender affirming surgery. Like, 99.7% report little to no regret.
More people regret knee replacement, pretty much every kind of plastic surgery, and wisdom tooth extraction. Your friend is overwhelmingly likely to be happy with the results here, just by dint of statistical aggregates.
I'm going to agree with VR-Man above, if just for my peace of mind. I don't know if it was bogus or not, but I remember reading a facebook post that got reposted, in which a trans person said he bitterly regretted his (well, her) operation because she couldn't go to the bathroom or have sex anymore and was in pain constantly. Maybe it's just one person out of a hundred, but still, I really worry for my friend. Spoiler because it get personal : but thinking about it, he didn't say anything about being forced to pick, and instead said something I found very odd about "not feeling like he's in the right skin". You can be sure I grilled him nicely but thoroughly to make sure he wasn't influenced by any tumblr bullshit, and from what he said, it was a problem he was always facing, and his doctor interrogated him as tightly as I did, so I really think he's fine, but I'm not sure how to bring that up with him to go from "think he's fine" to "sure he's fine". Can't really go "hey last time we chatted was 2 months ago, how do you do?" Anyway, I'll shut up now, this is getting quite uncomfortable for a comment about a picture of Bridget.
PS : and of course you post the link as I type this. Thank you anyway, I'll read that real quick, and try to get in touch with him. Might be her by now, I'll have to be careful.
but I remember reading a facebook post that got reposted, in which a trans person said he bitterly regretted his (well, her) operation because she couldn't go to the bathroom or have sex anymore and was in pain constantly.
Yeah about that, the most common surgery involves basically turning the penis inside out to form the vagina, and it requires adherence to a strict schedule for dilation during the first year or so, because otherwise the vagina can permanently tighten too far or even close up entirely, so if their doctor didn't warn them about the dilation or they simply didn't do it then such a result is very likely, though at that point it's entirely on them for not doing their research or performing the proper aftercare. And in regards to the "not feeling in the right skin part" that's a common way to describe how gender dysphoria feels like.
FRien said: PS : and of course you post the link as I type this. Thank you anyway, I'll read that real quick, and try to get in touch with him. Might be her by now, I'll have to be careful.
No worries. You're obviously coming from a place of genuine concern for a friend's well-being here.
I just think that lurid stuff like that aforementioned Facebook post โ emotionally impactful, scary and rare โ goes viral and sticks in your head a lot more easily than "I had surgery, it went smoothly, and I'm satisfied with the results," which is the default/base case. Like how airplanes are statistically way safer than cars, but airplane disasters are such an intense, horrible thing and get such heavy news coverage that air travel feels so much riskier, you know?
Funny you ask that, a friend's uncle had gender reassignment surgery, regretted it almost immediately and had it done a second time, so he's mtftm. Though for context he never did HRT or spoke to a therapist or anything, he just went straight to a clinic and had them do the surgery, then was disappointed about how the result didn't align with his expectations, leading back to never talking with a professional about what the surgery would even achieve. Also that was like 20 years ago, results may be better nowadays.
I'm going to agree with VR-Man above, if just for my peace of mind. I don't know if it was bogus or not, but I remember reading a facebook post that got reposted, in which a trans person said he bitterly regretted his (well, her) operation because she couldn't go to the bathroom or have sex anymore and was in pain constantly. Maybe it's just one person out of a hundred, but still, I really worry for my friend. Spoiler because it get personal : but thinking about it, he didn't say anything about being forced to pick, and instead said something I found very odd about "not feeling like he's in the right skin". You can be sure I grilled him nicely but thoroughly to make sure he wasn't influenced by any tumblr bullshit, and from what he said, it was a problem he was always facing, and his doctor interrogated him as tightly as I did, so I really think he's fine, but I'm not sure how to bring that up with him to go from "think he's fine" to "sure he's fine". Can't really go "hey last time we chatted was 2 months ago, how do you do?" Anyway, I'll shut up now, this is getting quite uncomfortable for a comment about a picture of Bridget.
PS : and of course you post the link as I type this. Thank you anyway, I'll read that real quick, and try to get in touch with him. Might be her by now, I'll have to be careful.
Is it possible that the way you grilled your "friend" might have something to do with why they haven't spoken to you in two months?
Asking because I've been on the other side of that conversation, with someone who actually believed that Hedwig and the Angry Inch was anything other than fiction
Relatedly, the comments under this picture is actually a really good place to discuss these matters and I think the artist would approve
Yeah about that, the most common surgery involves basically turning the penis inside out to form the vagina
...ouch. But at least it finally explains that 4chan insult I see a lot, that "dilate".
And in regards to the "not feeling in the right skin part" that's a common way to describe how gender dysphoria feels like.
Yeah, that's the part that convinced me that he wasn't brainwashed or anything, his desire was genuine. Because, I opened to another friend about it, since I didn't know how to react, and he told me that he almost got manipulated into thinking his own issues came from gender dysphoria when it was "just" your average teenager depression. In the end, I decided that friend > gender thing, so I did my best to support her, no matter how weird the idea was. As long as it's not illegal or immoral, honestly, it's her decision to make. All I can do is poke her to make her wonder if it's really what she wants, and if she does, well, all the best. If she hesitated, I might have insisted more, but it's not my place to decide for her. It's not a responsability I want anyway. I don't want to be that kind of controlling person who has to secondguess everything you do. But anyway, I talked to her yesterday, and she's fine. Hell, she's even doing better than me, she got a date and all that, while my last date tried to set me up with her husband. I didn't even know she was married.
helljumperhelljumper said:
Is it possible that the way you grilled your "friend" might have something to do with why they haven't spoken to you in two months?
Nah, it's just how things are on Discord. You talk a lot for two weeks, then you're out of things to talk, and it becomes "oh hey" "hi" "how you do?" "am okay" "cool" "wanna play some helldivers?" "I uninstalled it bro" "damn that a shame bro" and "yeah bro". It didn't help that we played Tera Online, but when Tera died, I moved on to FFXIV while she stopped playing MMOs altogether. And since her surgery ruined her sex drive, we couldn't chat about castanic butts anymore, so... I grilled her pretty intensely to be absolutely sure it was her own decision, but she didn't mind telling me. She was actually proud, "liberated" about it. Honestly it was almost cute how relieved she was about it. It felt like she was about to buy a house or something.
Anyway, thanks for the studie notes and the advices, I'm relieved now.
Yeah, that's the part that convinced me that he wasn't brainwashed or anything, his desire was genuine. Because, I opened to another friend about it, since I didn't know how to react, and he told me that he almost got manipulated into thinking his own issues came from gender dysphoria when it was "just" your average teenager depression. In the end, I decided that friend > gender thing, so I did my best to support her, no matter how weird the idea was. As long as it's not illegal or immoral, honestly, it's her decision to make. All I can do is poke her to make her wonder if it's really what she wants, and if she does, well, all the best. If she hesitated, I might have insisted more, but it's not my place to decide for her. It's not a responsability I want anyway. I don't want to be that kind of controlling person who has to secondguess everything you do.
For what it's worth, I can guarantee you that you're not the first one to tell her this. As a trans woman, I can tell you honestly that every one of my relatives and a solid portion of my friends and coworkers asked if I was really sure, and if I was sure about surgery and medication and if I shouldn't wait until an unspecified future date and etc., etc. It can be draining!
What on your end feels like an intervention she might not be getting elsewhere and an expression of compassion, given the context she has to which you may not be privy, might feel on her end like one more instance of second-guessing or distrust โ which is how a genuine, sincere concern can wind up doing more harm than good. Of course, I don't want to presume her situation exactly matches mine, but this is common enough among trans people that I think I might have nonzero insight.
For what it's worth, I can guarantee you that you're not the first one to tell her this.
I mean, you're totally free to misrepresent the situation and defend someone you literally never spoke to and who definitely doesn't need your help, and you're free to build a strawman of the well-meaning but nosy friend who keep asking very intimate questions when he shouldn't, but I'd appreciate if you didn't try to apply that strawman of you to me in particular, to then call me out on being nosy. Especially since you're jumping to conclusions based on very spare parts of a story that I purposely did not expand on, because as she said later to me, she never told her family or coworkers, only me. Sharing that story was extremely tough for me because I felt like I was betraying her trust, and you jumping to conclusion and trying to paint me as some kind of know-it-better asshole is not appreciated in the slightest.
Spitting in the face of someone trying to offer compassion when they fear you just alienated everyone around you (especially when trans suicide rates are discussed so often online and loneliness seems to be a big factor in said suicides) is not helping, just so you know. Actually, I'd rather you don't talk to me ever again. What you just did, accusing me of second-guessing her out of the blue, when she's the one who came to me and made it all sound like I was the only person she trusted to tell me that, only pisses me off.
I mean, you're totally free to misrepresent the situation and defend someone you literally never spoke to and who definitely doesn't need your help, and you're free to build a strawman of the well-meaning but nosy friend who keep asking very intimate questions when he shouldn't, but I'd appreciate if you didn't try to apply that strawman of you to me in particular, to then call me out on being nosy. Especially since you're jumping to conclusions based on very spare parts of a story that I purposely did not expand on, because as she said later to me, she never told her family or coworkers, only me. Sharing that story was extremely tough for me because I felt like I was betraying her trust, and you jumping to conclusion and trying to paint me as some kind of know-it-better asshole is not appreciated in the slightest.
Spitting in the face of someone trying to offer compassion when they fear you just alienated everyone around you (especially when trans suicide rates are discussed so often online and loneliness seems to be a big factor in said suicides) is not helping, just so you know. Actually, I'd rather you don't talk to me ever again. What you just did, accusing me of second-guessing her out of the blue, when she's the one who came to me and made it all sound like I was the only person she trusted to tell me that, only pisses me off.
Understood, and I can honor that. For what it's worth, I've seen you consistently coming from a place of compassion in this conversation, and I respect it.